This is a strange thing to say, I realize, but seeing Ceremony shifted something about how I perceived engagement itself — it no longer seemed a stuffy transactional exchange stuck in a traditional past.
Our freshman fall at Colby we both took an Anthropology class. On Fridays, the professor screened movies. I thought they were dull, so I wrote Pete notes and sneakily pushed them across our table. I convinced him to come to gymnastics club with me.